What does Elvis Presley, Jerry Lee Lewis, and Sonny Bono have in common?
Well...they were entertainers and caucasian...they also had relations with children. Elvis began his relationship with Pricilla when she was 14, Jerry Lee married his 12 year old cousin, and Cher moved in with Sonny when she was 16.
They were all pedophiles...and they were also on the spectrum for narcissism.
If your child was a victim of sexual assault by an adult, then chances are the perpetrator is a narcissist.
Havelock Ellis was a British essayist and physician who first identified narcissism as a mental disorder (1898). It is one of the three dark triadic personality traits (the others being psychopathy, and Machiavellianism).
Narcissism is characterized by an inflated self-image and addiction to fantasy, by an unusual coolness and composure shaken only when the narcissistic confidence is threatened, and by the tendency to take others for granted or to exploit them. The disorder is named for the mythological figure Narcissus, who fell in love with his own reflection. According to Sigmund Freud, narcissism is a normal stage in child development, but it is considered a disorder when it occurs after puberty.
Pedophilia does represent a narcissistic object choice, since the pedophile sees the child as a mirror image of himself as a child. Narcissism results from the oedipal fixation, where the pedophile identifies with his mother and sees himself in the child. pedophiles are also considered to be weak and helpless individuals because their choice of children as sexual objects pose less resistance or create less anxiety than adult partners, thereby allowing pedophiles to avoid castration anxiety. In clinical practice, many pedophiles are found to suffer from a narcissistic character pathology, including psychopathic variants of narcissistic personality disorder. Sexual activity with prepubescent children can underpin the pedophile’s fragile self-esteem.
The Phoenix Coalition for the Families and Victims of Sex Abuse specializes in narcissistic abuse recovery. We offer counseling to parents of children who have been abused by these narcissist perpetrators and provide expert witness support for litigation and industry.
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The sex offender is concerned about his or her own desperate needs. Sexual gratification is met at the expense of the child. The child is an object to be used. That child has no voice, is manipulated, and controlled. Because child sexual abuse is weirdly done with affection, the attention is disingenuous. So, how would the child know? It is not what it appears to be, similar to other kinds of narcissistic behavior patterns.
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